The necessity of having a coach in your life.

Rockey’s words echoed in my mind as I sat on the couch, absentmindedly scrolling through my phone. The last time I hired a coach was about three years ago, when my life felt like it was falling apart. Three bruised ribs and five children running wildly through a house that felt more chaotic than comfortable. Back then, I didn’t know what to do anymore. I felt lost in the noise, the mess, the constant demands. I knew I needed help, but I had no idea where to start. And then she came: my life coach.

I still remember the day she walked into my home. Calm, confident, and completely unfazed by the chaos around us. She sat down across from me, smiled, and said, “Tell me, how can I help you?”

At first, I hesitated. Where would I even begin? But the warmth in her eyes made me feel safe, so I started talking. Slowly at first, and then all at once. I told her about the sleepless nights, the endless to-do lists, the feeling that I was constantly falling behind. I laid out all the clutter in my mind and heart. And when I was done, I realized something strange. I could breathe again. Had I really been holding all of that in this whole time?

No, that wasn’t it. The truth was, for the first time in a long time, I wasn’t carrying everything alone. Someone else was helping me carry the weight. And not just anyone, but someone who knew how to help me navigate the chaos, set goals, and actually work toward them. We started small: organizing my schedule, finding quiet moments for myself, setting boundaries with the kids. Little by little, things began to shift. The house didn’t magically become quiet, five kids, after all, but I felt stronger. More grounded.

Now, when I look back on that first session and where I am today, I feel nothing but gratitude. I know I would never have reached this point without her guidance. So when Rockey’s words echoed in my mind maybe you should hire that coach again, I knew he was right. I’m no longer in the same phase of life as I was back then. My life isn’t falling apart, but I can feel the edges starting to fray. I needed someone to help me pull those loose threads tight before they completely unraveled.

I picked up my phone, scrolled through my contacts, and found her name again. My heart started beating faster as I typed a message. When she replied with a date and time, a wave of relief washed over me. I hadn’t realized how much I needed this until that moment came.

Today, she still walks alongside me, offering clarity and guidance when I need it, and holding me accountable to the goals I’ve set. And honestly, I now realize that I will probably never live without a coach again. I also believe that everyone needs at least one coach in their life. I know that hiring a coach or getting one through work isn’t possible for everyone, but it’s worth exploring. More and more employers are recognising the importance of investing in their employees’ personal well-being. And if that’s not an option, there are other doors you can knock on.

Sometimes, the right person is already in your life: a friend, a colleague, maybe even your boss. You’d be surprised how many people are willing to sit down with you once or twice a month, help you organize your thoughts, set goals, and hold you accountable.

If this message speaks to your heart, find someone who can help you breathe again. Because the truth is, the dreams and goals we carry in our hearts are often too big to build alone. Whether it’s rebuilding your life after a difficult period, finding balance in the chaos of everyday life, or working toward something bigger, like we are with our care estate, we can’t carry it all by ourselves. Sometimes, the bravest step is simply inviting someone to walk alongside you.