"The Necessity of Having a Coach (Who Walks Alongside You)

Rockey’s words echoed in my mind as I sat on the couch, scrolling mindlessly through my phone. The last time I hired a coach was about three years ago, back when my life felt like it was unraveling at the seams.

Three bruised ribs and five kids running wild through a house that felt more chaotic than comforting. Back then, I didn’t know what to do anymore. I was drowning in the noise, the mess, the constant demands. I knew I needed help, but I had no idea where to start. And then she came, my life coach.I still remember the day she walked into my house. Calm, confident, and completely unfazed by the chaos swirling around us. She sat down across from me, smiled, and said,“Tell me, how can I help you?”

At first, I hesitated. Where would I even begin? But the warmth in her eyes made me feel safe, so I started talking. Slowly at first, then all at once. I told her about the sleepless nights, the endless to-do lists, the feeling that I was constantly falling behind. I laid it all out, the mess in my mind and heart.

And when I was done, I realized something strange. I could breathe again. Had I really been holding all of that in? No, that wasn’t it. The truth was that for the first time in a long while, I wasn’t holding it alone. Someone else was helping me carry the weight. And not just anyone, someone who knew how to help me sort through the mess, set goals, and actually work toward them.

We started small: organizing my schedule, finding quiet moments for myself, setting boundaries with the kids. Bit by bit, things started to shift. The house didn’t magically become quiet, five kids after all, but I felt steadier somehow. More grounded. When I look back now at that first session and where I am today, I feel nothing but gratitude. I know I wouldn’t have made it this far without her guidance. So when Rockey’s words echoed in my mind again, maybe you should hire that coach again, I knew he was right. I wasn’t in the same place as last time. Life wasn’t falling apart, but I could feel the edges starting to fray. I needed someone to help me tighten the loose threads before they unraveled completely.

I grabbed my phone, scrolled through my contacts, and found her name again. My heart raced as I typed out a message. When she replied with a date and time, a wave of relief washed over me. I hadn’t realized how much I needed this until that moment. Today she still walks alongside me, providing clarity and guidance when I need it and keeping me accountable for the goals I’ve set. And honestly, I’ve come to the realization that I will probably never do life without a coach again. I also believe that everyone needs at least one coach in their life. I know that hiring a coach or receiving one through work isn’t always possible for everyone. But it’s worth exploring. More and more employers are beginning to see the value of investing in their employees’ personal well-being.

And if that’s not possible, there are other doors you can knock on. Sometimes the right person is already in your life: a friend, a colleague, maybe even your boss. You might be surprised how many people are willing to sit down with you once or twice a month, help you sort through your thoughts, set goals, and keep you accountable.

If this message resonates with you, please find someone who can help you breathe again. Because the truth is, the dreams and goals we carry in our hearts are often too big to build alone. Whether it’s rebuilding your life after a difficult season, finding balance in the chaos of everyday life, or working toward something bigger, like we are doing with the estate, we were never meant to carry everything by ourselves. Sometimes the bravest step we can take is simply inviting someone to walk alongside us.